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June 29, 2019

Zen Proverb: “Before enlightenment, chop wood, carry water. After enlightenment, chop wood, carry water.”

Much has been written about the meaning of that Zen proverb. Today, I see the message as my reminder that all of life is lived only in the present moment. Enlightenment is not a destination, it is found in every “now.” It is constant practice in the simplicity of focu...

May 23, 2019

Often, when couples are together for many years, they start to look like each other.  I’ve noticed this, have you? I don’t think this was the case with Wade and me, but I know I am not objective.

I do find that, for me, objects can take on a person’s characteristics and become touchstones. This realization is especially strong as I move around the empty spaces in this new...

May 2, 2019

When I walk on the Naugatuck Valley River Trail, I prefer to walk alone— the steady rhythm of my feet hitting pavement becomes a kind of mantra. Despite that, I do hear voices. In the breezes that sweep along the water, I hear my father’s words, “The wind clears out the cobwebs.” It does for me.

Of course, there are other people on the trail. They pass coming and going wi...

April 3, 2019

I just returned from a trip to Disney World with granddaughter Nora and my daughter. The non-profit, Dream Come True, granted Nora the trip. I was so delighted and grateful to be included.    

The last time I was at Disney World, Epcot had not yet opened. Both Disney and I were quite different back then.  

This time, Epcot was abloom with its “Flower and Garden F...

February 27, 2019

As a child, I remember discovering my dislike of houseplants. My impression formed when visiting others’ homes, where I cringed at the sight of dirty clay pots crammed onto windowsills. Worse than that was the time-yellowed and water-stained layers of newspaper the owners had placed under them to sop up sloppy waterings or catch overflow.  

When I finally had a home of my...

February 1, 2019

It’s a new year and most everything is new for me with Wade’s sudden death on December 31st. One minute we were nursing the pain in his neck and shoulder; then in the next few minutes, he was gone. 

I am writing this on my 28th day without him. I think I will be counting days for quite a while. There will be a book about all of this. However, my inner voice said write thi...

July 17, 2018

In day-to-day life, I typically have a “live and let live” perspective. This post is about one thing that challenges me. Often that happens if I am lacking some information. I sincerely invite your feedback.

For the past five years, I have taken many morning walks along the Naugatuck Valley River Trail. I park in the lot of the big-box store just across the dead-end stree...

May 11, 2018

There are many different types of mothers

November 28, 2017

Beautiful, statuesque, almost-30-year-old Jessica Hanson is my most memorable person from the 2017 Planetree International Conference. She broke my heart with her story

October 31, 2017

When I was planning my speech content for the 2017 Planetree International Conference on Patient-Centered Care in Baltimore, I didn’t realize that the delivery was going to be a podcasted interview with Matt Cavallo, founder of the Patient Activation Network.

As I said in my previous blog post, the people I met at the conference were such gifts to me. Meeting Matt was one...